Getting to the Root of Your Son’s Anger Problems
Anger is a strong emotion that can be brought on by many different things. Sometimes it gets to a point where you have done all you can do at home, and need to find other sources of help for your son.
Address the Problem
While we all like to think we can control and influence our children’s actions to the point that they will make the right decision every time, we can’t. It’s tough to admit your child has a problem, but until you do, there is no way to help him. His anger problems could be his way of telling you he needs help. Giving him the attention he needs is the first successful step you can take for his recovery. Once you accept he has a problem, you can begin to understand what needs to be done to solve his anger problems and find him proper care. You can also begin to seek support for yourself and your partner as you embark on your son’s healing journey together.
Find A Way to Communicate Effectively
Effective communication is vital to getting to the bottom of your son’s anger. There are many reasons that could be behind his bad behavior. Depression and anxiety, substance abuse, acting out sexually, and internet addictions are common reasons behind teenage aggression. Because they are very emotionally charged, approach them using logic and tact only, taking your own emotions out of the equation. This will prevent the conversation from escalating. Ask questions that are just trying to gain information, not poke or prodding. Be confident in your role as their caregiver. Stand up to them, be firm, but also caring. Communicating with your son will be difficult because of his situation, but not impossible.
Let Him Know You Care
It’s easy to be angry at someone who does not seem to care about you. Show your teen you care by explaining that you have noticed they are not themselves, and they need help. Let them know that you are going to get them whatever help they need, because you care. Make sure you don’t infer that they are a burden to you, or causing you problems, but their treatment is for them, so they can have a better future and thrive as an adult. Even if your child is struggling from an extreme case, there is help for him, as well as your entire family. This is something that affects you, your partner, and everyone else in your son’s life. The good news is, there are resources to help him recover.