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Teenage Boys and Sexual Deviance

A lot of parents are hesitant to speak openly with their children about sex. It’s never a comfortable conversation to have, leading both teenagers and their parents to feel awkward. Sadly, this is the reason many parents tend to avoid the subject altogether, and intervene only when they suspect a problem. However, a habit of honest discussion, along with proper education on the subject are both key to healthy attitudes and habits.

If you have a teenage son, you might be concerned about their ability to develop normal sexual behaviors and beliefs. You want him to form relationships that are healthy and productive, and avoid deviant behaviors – such as aggression – that could cause him trouble and heartache in the future.

What is Sexual Deviance?

The term “sexual deviance” usually refers to sexual or sex-related practices or fantasies that most would consider unhealthy, damaging, or abnormal. Every parent has different feelings on what they would consider okay or not okay. Your opinion can and should be based on your own family values. However, when it comes to teenage boys and teens as a whole, certain types of sexual deviance are harmful because they lead to misconceptions or unhealthy attitudes toward sex and relationships.

As boys age into adolescence, their interest in sex will naturally increase. Remember that this is a normal and healthy part of growing up. As they mature, however, it’s vital that they learn to recognize which behaviors and boundaries are appropriate or inappropriate. As a parent, you can play a pivotal role in helping your son avoid sexual deviant or destructive behaviors. Sexually deviant behaviors sometimes found in teens may include:

  1. Voyeurism

  2. Sexting

  3. Self-exhibition

  4. Inappropriate contact with others

  5. Sexual harassment or bullying

  6. Hardcore pornography use