Today is Grant’s first day of school, so I was sitting at my desk at work thinking about our journey and how we have been led to this moment…
Only a little over a year ago, we felt hopeless and scared. After making the most difficult decision of our lives, our Grant has emerged from 11 months with you guys a renewed young man.
I have said it many times, but don’t think I could ever express our gratitude to you. With your wise guidance and Grant’s very hard work, our family has come out on the other side of hopelessness and fear.
The past few months have been amazing. I know that we will see challenges, but feel so much more capable and secure in our ability to handle whatever comes our way. There have been so many times in our journey with Grant that I have looked at friends with their children and watched how they truly enjoyed them. Because of our struggles, I had not had that feeling in a very long time. We are now thrilled to be together and are truly enjoying Grant – and all of his wonder.
So, on this first day of Grant’s sophomore year, I say thank you – thank you for showing our family how to be the family that we always dreamt of… We are so grateful to you.
Love to all -
Tricia D.
TEXAS
Welcome to Sundance Canyon Academy. We feel honored that you have chosen us to work with your son and your family. We recognize that this has not been an easy step on your part. Entrusting someone with your child is a difficult decision, yet, be assured, you are not alone.
One question that is often asked, “What do kids need to succeed?” can be answered in many different ways depending on the person or persons you are speaking with. Our answer is a simple one, at Sundance Canyon we provide students a therapeutic environment to educate, improve, and aid individual growth towards becoming a caring, capable, and contributing member of society.
At Sundance Canyon, we are fully committed to serving families. Please feel free to contact us at anytime if you have a concern or wish to discuss a situation regarding your son. The following information is to help you understand the rules and procedures here at Sundance Canyon.
With Warm Regards,
Simon Timms
Executive Director
1 . Avoid any kind of institution with a large enrollment. Unless the institution branches out and gives its students more personal level experience in smaller groups and with one on one instruction and counseling, there is a very palpable danger of having your teenager placed on an “ assembly line” to success, rather than one that will actually build your child up and help them to really develop the basic foundations that they need to develop their lives in a constructive way.
2 . Any program that tries to dress its institution with false credentials we advise that you avoid. A licensed professional is an essential part of any type of therapy. While other individuals who are good people and have some qualifications may help in the process, the system should include regular contact with a licensed and
qualified therapist in order to be effective.
3 . A program that will not be straightforward or upfront about its teaching methods or process of therapeutic agenda needs to be closely inspected. It doesn’ t matter if it is for “ ensuring that their formula is not copied by other institutions” or if the people simply do not want to be forth coming with what exactly their program entails (such as not allowing you to visit the campus or institution before enrolling your student there, etc.) it is a dangerous gamble you will be taking with your student’ s future. We recommend that you make sure that the staff is friendly and willing to help you understand fully what your child will be experiencing while at the selected institution before you enrolling them.
4 . A big distraction that we have noticed is if the program is Co-Ed. When boys and girls are thrown into one big melting pot it can lead to both sexes simply performing to gain attention from the opposite sex and can make progress extremely difficult to measure accurately. Or else they lock themselves away, afraid to show their true emotions in front of a peer of the opposite gender, fearing the consequences of opening up.
5 . Any institution that claims to be a “ quick fix” can be compared to a shady used car dealer, neither of which you should trust from what we have experienced. Your child deserves to have someone who is going to stick with them throughout their healing and growing process, which may prove to be very painful and emotional and should not be handled in a weekend or any other pre-determined amount of time. We’ve noticed that each youth is different and the amount of time necessary for each one differs from each teenager. A program should bend to the teens needs, and not the other way around.
These are just some of the pitfalls that we’ ve noticed in our experiences and feel that we should express to you, the parent or friend of a troubled teenager, before you make the final selection to help your teen with their problems. As with all circumstances, you should take into consideration your own child’ s needs and make a decision based on the information that you have at your disposal. If you have any questions, feel free to contact us for additional advice and support.
]]>If you are on this website, then chances are that you’ ve had problems with your teenager and are looking for help. But you probably wonder if your child truly needs some type of intervention, or if it’ s just a “ phase” that they are going through, here are some warning signs that your child is facing bigger problems than you might have thought:
An adolescent’ s life is a very social one. If your teen tends to prefer his own company to that of his peers, there may be a problem. As with all of these symptoms, communication with your teen is of capital importance, find out why your teen prefers to keep to themselves.
This extends to friends that you haven’ t met. If a teen is concealing his friends from you, or is ashamed/anxious to bring them over for you to meet, this may be a cause of concern. Other warning signs may be an abrupt change in “ look” in a teenager.
When your child is hiding things from you, not just their diary or a text message from her boyfriend, but significant events in their life that deals with her welfare. If your teen is habitually late, or misses certain appointments regularly, then it might be a good idea to find out if there is a problem.
When grades suddenly plummet, or truancies and tardies are becoming rampant, then there may be a problem that you need to discuss with your teen. Drugs and Alcohol: These are dead giveaways that there is something amiss. If you find that your child has been habitually abusing a substance, then take time to speak with them if possible. Help discover the problem, and contact a professional to help you plan out a solution.
Violence: In our observations, any kind of violence, whether it is to others or the teenagers themselves, is a sign of another problem; bullying, cutting, or any other violent action is something that should be a cause for concern.
Extreme weight gain or loss can be a sign of unseen troubles, also any kind of indication of a distorted body image, such as thinking that they are too fat when they are perfectly healthy, or even too skinny. Things of this nature can be indicators that your youth needs help.
When the trials of adolescence seem impossible to your child, and they are prone to nervous breakdowns, this can also be a sign that your child needs help.
If your teen has a tendency to swing to violent extremes of moods, such as smiling one moment and screaming the next. This may be an indicator that your youth is struggling with things that they need help with. These are all different indicators, and of course, with every situation it depends on the individual. While some teens might be able to figure out their issues with some help from you, the parent or friend, others could use the additional help of professional services to deal with these pressures. Consider your child’ s situation and make a decision with as much information as you can.
]]>That’s a question you could very well be asking yourself at this point. With all the options available to you it can be a bit daunting, especially when the item at hand is your child’s future. When considering which choice is the best for you and your troubled teenager, consider what it is that you are looking for. Look through all the explanations offered
for the various services on this website. Select one that you think best suits your child’s situation. Consider what it is that your child is doing that needs correcting. What are your main concerns for your teenager? Taking that into consideration can help you decide on what kind of facility or service you need. The following are suggestions to take into account depending on what your troubled youth’s situation is:
Boot camps:
Therapeutic Boarding Schools:
Outpatient and Day Treatment:
Summer Camps
If you need some help with this please fill out the Teen program Assessment
]]>Therapeutic Boarding Schools are advantageous in the method of their approach. Manyboarding schools offer the opportunity for troubled teens to interact with other youth whohave already overcome their more volatile tendencies. Our experiences have shown that ithelps to have someone who has a similar background to what your teen has gone throughor is passing through currently. As one apt description details: “No one can see through acon man’s words faster than another con man.” Youth who have comparable experiencesseem to be able to see through defenses put in place by their peers, and this allows themto open up in what they perceive as a more inviting environment. There is also the addedability to relate that is inherent in similar experiences that makes it easier for a troubledteen to talk about his or her issues that they are dealing with.
Another advantage that we’ve noticed that this method has over other, more extrememethods, is that it is done in a calmer, and often times more effective manner. In ourexperience, screaming drill instructors and heavy-handed discipline will often instill adeep resentment in a child for authority figures, where a calmer environment can oftentimes invite your teen to open up and discover the true source of the issues they have atheart. While we have observed that a strict and detailed regimen is often times a goodplace to start with helping a youth to overcome their obstacles, it isn’t the end-all for yourteen’s progression. Teenagers are looking to understand the world around them, and oftentimes their confusion at what they see is displayed in forms of extreme or aggressivebehavior. Such behavior is not helped by a screaming authority figure, but rather thatexacerbates the situation.
The key word to this approach is “therapeutic” meaning therapy. From our observations,in order for therapy to be effective, the participant must be in a position where they arewilling and able to give their all in an effort to progress towards healing. In our opinion,such positions are nearly impossible to realize in a situation of high stress, so thereforea strict, but flexible regimen is essential to building structure that can also change as theneeds of the youth appear.
In the end a Therapeutic Boarding School is a place for healing and helping. It offersa calm place for youth to explore their world and help them make sense of it allwith guiding influences and helpful peers to make that discovery easier and more understandable.
Parents looking for help with their troubled teenager often look for boot camps, military schools, wilderness programs etc… when looking for relief to a very stressful situation of a teenager out of control. Boot camps are mostly state supported facilities and for a teenager to be placed in a boot camp the teenager usually must already be part of the “system”. Private programs tend to be labeled as Residential treatment centers, behavioral boarding schools, therapeutic boarding schools, or some type of wilderness program.
While wilderness programs are very strict and very structured, short term programs very seldom produce long term results. Some therapists say that 9 months is optimal, however it will take as long as it takes depending on the teenager.
The programs that we recommend are long term boarding school type placements. These type of placements offer the program, security, structure, and time that teens need to get themselves back on track. We are here to provide you with as much support as possible in making that decision. Fill out the Teen Assessment form and we will help you start the research process to find the best program for your teen.
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